Dear Carol,

I am 15 years old, and I’ve had this crush for five years. He is my friend’s cousin and a family friend. My parents are very strict on dating. I’m too afraid to ask if I can date, but I really want to ask this boy out.

-Asking my family about dating

Dear Asking My Family About Dating,

I wouldn’t rush to bring it up, especially if this boy hasn’t made it clear he likes you yet. Besides, it sounds like you can already anticipate your parents’ answer. Can you try talking to him more directly? Is he your age? Does he live near you? What kind of date do you have in mind? A walk? Movie? Dinner? Have you told your friend that you like her cousin—or has she guessed? Can you all hang out or get tacos or go to a park or concert together? One step at a time. If this boy hasn’t given you much of a green light, try to break the spell he has on you. The boy you started liking when you were 10 is not the only one worthy of your attention.

Carol Weston is the author of 16 books, including Girltalk, Speed of Life and Ava and Pip. Follow her on Insta @carolwestonnyc and visit carolweston.com.

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