Dear Carol,

I really like having my room be in order. If my sister sits on my bed after I make it, I get mad, then she gets mad.

-I’m a perfectionist

Dear I’m A Perfectionist,

Sometimes I wish I were tidier, because my office sure wouldn’t pass a neatness test. Other times, I’m glad I’m not a perfectionist, because when you expect perfection, you are going to fall short. Maybe one reason why I’m good at languages is because I like to learn and don’t mind making mistakes. It’s summer, so go easy on yourself. Next time your sister walks into your room, strike up a conversation rather than focusing on the fresh creases in your bedcovers. And aim to be happy instead of perfect. Because, psst, there’s no such thing as perfect.

Carol Weston is the author of 16 books, including Girltalk, Speed of Life and Ava and Pip. Follow her on Insta @carolwestonnyc and visit carolweston.com.

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