{"id":309557,"date":"2025-12-17T09:51:26","date_gmt":"2025-12-17T14:51:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/girlslife.com\/?p=309557"},"modified":"2025-12-17T18:41:41","modified_gmt":"2025-12-17T23:41:41","slug":"dear-carol-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/girlslife.com\/life\/309557\/dear-carol-2\/","title":{"rendered":"“Dear Carol, this guy I like already has a girlfriend\u2014who’s older”"},"content":{"rendered":"
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education, high school, communication and people concept – group of happy teenage students walking outdoors<\/p><\/div>\n

Dear Carol,
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I have known this guy since fifth grade, and <\/span><\/strong>I suddenly started having a huge crush on <\/span><\/strong>him this year. We are both in eighth grade <\/span><\/strong>and in the same class. The only problem? He <\/span><\/strong>has a GF in high school.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

– Crushing On A Taken Guy<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Crushing On A Taken Guy,<\/p>\n

Most eighth-grade boys don\u2019t have high <\/span>school girlfriends. If his relationship is <\/span>working for him, you may have to wait in <\/span>the wings and keep living your life: school, <\/span>friends, family,<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>hobbies, work, volunteering, <\/span>etc. And can we agree that telling a taken <\/span>guy that you like him is not a good idea? As <\/span>for what to do, remain friendly with him as <\/span>you let this crush quietly simmer on the back <\/span>burner, and be aware that your feelings may <\/span>change, too. Can you say hi to someone else <\/span>who might want to go with you to a Halloween<\/span>\u00a0party or football game? Just saying, <\/span>\u201cThat\u2019s a nice sweater\u201d could start a whole <\/span>new relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Carol Weston is the author of 16 books, including\u00a0Girltalk<\/em>,\u00a0Speed of Life<\/em>\u00a0and\u00a0Ava and Pip<\/em>. Follow her on Insta\u00a0@carolwestonnyc<\/a>\u00a0and visit\u00a0carolweston.com.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Still searching for more advice? Check out more Dear Carol here:<\/strong>
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